things to consider before marriage
Are you ready to commit? Not just on the good days but on every. single. one. of the hard days. Are you willing to wake up in the morning and choose that person again and again and again....and again? Are you willing to sacrifice your personal desires to join with your spouses desires? To meet in the middle, to compromise, to lower yourself?
That list could go on and on. Marriage is the best thing but it is also a super hard thing, do you know why? Because it refines us. It makes us into better people. It is supposed to smooth out your rough edges so that you're a better person. It takes a choice every single day to love that person and honor that person above yourself. This isn't a popular opinion in a "I don't change for anyone" generation. But I can tell you this with confidence, you're missing out if you're unwilling to change. Changing brings about growth. If you are so set in your ways, you will never be able to experience the joy of choosing someone over yourself. This is so much easier said than done. Please, hear my words and know I am in the process of it. I haven't been married long, it is still a challenge to humble myself and choose Sam. The thing is, even though it hasn't been long - I have seen the growth in each one of us as we lay down our "right to be right."
Read that again. The "right to be right." You give that up when you give yourself over to marriage. You lay down your rights. You surrender yourself and join with another human who has entirely different thoughts, perspectives, pasts and you choose to lower yourself so that your marriage can survive - and not only survive but thrive and become successful. The divorce rate in this nation is so high and I believe it is fully rooted in pride. No one is willing to work things out, to meet in the middle. Everyone is wanting to have their own way, to have the freedom of choice without having to consult another. Sometimes you have to get out of your own way to see how beautiful things can truly be. Marriage doesn't have to be a challenge if you go into it knowing you will do your best to choose surrender.
I love being married so much, mostly because he is my best friend but also because he and I have decided ahead of time that we would not be stuck in our own way. We decided that we would grow together, surrender together, work on things together, choose each other. These are not small things. These are hard but they produce something AMAZING. I can honestly say confidently that my marriage is amazing. I would never choose to go back to the single life, I have seen the beauty of submission and it has been transformative for both of us.
Please, before you walk down that aisle - know what you are getting yourself into. Know that it can be the absolute best thing you've ever done if you do it with humility in your heart and willingness to face every challenge that comes your way with purpose. The purpose being to have your marriage flourish and something that you truly enjoy. Yes, marriage can be something you love and enjoy. In fact, it should be the best and most fun adventure you've ever taken. I don't say any of this to scare you before getting married, but just prepare yourself. Set yourself on the right track before making the commitment. Practice surrendering now, while dating. Choose humility. You can never go wrong with taking the lower road.
That list could go on and on. Marriage is the best thing but it is also a super hard thing, do you know why? Because it refines us. It makes us into better people. It is supposed to smooth out your rough edges so that you're a better person. It takes a choice every single day to love that person and honor that person above yourself. This isn't a popular opinion in a "I don't change for anyone" generation. But I can tell you this with confidence, you're missing out if you're unwilling to change. Changing brings about growth. If you are so set in your ways, you will never be able to experience the joy of choosing someone over yourself. This is so much easier said than done. Please, hear my words and know I am in the process of it. I haven't been married long, it is still a challenge to humble myself and choose Sam. The thing is, even though it hasn't been long - I have seen the growth in each one of us as we lay down our "right to be right."
Read that again. The "right to be right." You give that up when you give yourself over to marriage. You lay down your rights. You surrender yourself and join with another human who has entirely different thoughts, perspectives, pasts and you choose to lower yourself so that your marriage can survive - and not only survive but thrive and become successful. The divorce rate in this nation is so high and I believe it is fully rooted in pride. No one is willing to work things out, to meet in the middle. Everyone is wanting to have their own way, to have the freedom of choice without having to consult another. Sometimes you have to get out of your own way to see how beautiful things can truly be. Marriage doesn't have to be a challenge if you go into it knowing you will do your best to choose surrender.
I love being married so much, mostly because he is my best friend but also because he and I have decided ahead of time that we would not be stuck in our own way. We decided that we would grow together, surrender together, work on things together, choose each other. These are not small things. These are hard but they produce something AMAZING. I can honestly say confidently that my marriage is amazing. I would never choose to go back to the single life, I have seen the beauty of submission and it has been transformative for both of us.
Please, before you walk down that aisle - know what you are getting yourself into. Know that it can be the absolute best thing you've ever done if you do it with humility in your heart and willingness to face every challenge that comes your way with purpose. The purpose being to have your marriage flourish and something that you truly enjoy. Yes, marriage can be something you love and enjoy. In fact, it should be the best and most fun adventure you've ever taken. I don't say any of this to scare you before getting married, but just prepare yourself. Set yourself on the right track before making the commitment. Practice surrendering now, while dating. Choose humility. You can never go wrong with taking the lower road.
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