Sex isn't everything.
I mean... it is important, but it's definitely not everything. We live in a generation where everything is so hyper-sexualized. Everything can be an inappropriate innuendo, people break up with their significant others because they're "incompatible" in that area... Some people even completely lose their identity in their sexuality. Their sexuality becomes what defines them as a person. When in reality, our sexuality is only a small sliver in the totality of who we are.
Before you get married, PLEASE, please, please don't do it because you are compatible sexually. You can grow in that area, where its not so easy to grow if you naturally disagree with the majority of what your partner believes. When I married Sam, I married knowing the cost of our commitment. I knew going into it, even if I was in a horrible accident and would never be able to have sex again, that he would still love me and choose me and I the same for him. Because THAT is what marriage is about. We had no clue if we were compatible in that area because we hadn't gotten that far. We were able to commit in every other area because we knew our emotions weren't blurred from the emotional tie that having sex brings. Our minds were clear on why we were in love and wanted to be with each other forever. Marry someone you know is committed to you in every way, not just physically. It matters little. I say this in the most humble way, you will be disappointed if you only marry someone because you had a great physical connection. Because after awhile, reality sets in and your stuck raising a family and growing old with someone who you don't connect with on any other level. I can't imagine that life.
It's important to know who you are before you commit to a relationship or else you will try and find your identity in your spouse, your sexuality, your job, your status. These things will never fulfill you, I promise. You need to know who you are, who you were created to be, and what your purpose is to truly find contentment. Otherwise you will be constantly looking for something or someone else to fill the voids that you feel.
Referring back to a previous blog I had written (lets talk about sex, baby) I mentioned how the best sex you can have is with someone who is there for the long run. Someone you can grow with. Not the person who fulfills a quick need but that person who you know is truly committed to growing along side of you. Who pushes you to be the absolute best you can be. Friends reading this, find who you are outside of your sexuality & relationships. Don't let the world tell you who you are, you are so much more. Those are only small pieces to a very big puzzle. You have purpose, you have a destiny, you have a calling. Figure it out. Pray and ask God to show you, He will answer.
Before you get married, PLEASE, please, please don't do it because you are compatible sexually. You can grow in that area, where its not so easy to grow if you naturally disagree with the majority of what your partner believes. When I married Sam, I married knowing the cost of our commitment. I knew going into it, even if I was in a horrible accident and would never be able to have sex again, that he would still love me and choose me and I the same for him. Because THAT is what marriage is about. We had no clue if we were compatible in that area because we hadn't gotten that far. We were able to commit in every other area because we knew our emotions weren't blurred from the emotional tie that having sex brings. Our minds were clear on why we were in love and wanted to be with each other forever. Marry someone you know is committed to you in every way, not just physically. It matters little. I say this in the most humble way, you will be disappointed if you only marry someone because you had a great physical connection. Because after awhile, reality sets in and your stuck raising a family and growing old with someone who you don't connect with on any other level. I can't imagine that life.
It's important to know who you are before you commit to a relationship or else you will try and find your identity in your spouse, your sexuality, your job, your status. These things will never fulfill you, I promise. You need to know who you are, who you were created to be, and what your purpose is to truly find contentment. Otherwise you will be constantly looking for something or someone else to fill the voids that you feel.
Referring back to a previous blog I had written (lets talk about sex, baby) I mentioned how the best sex you can have is with someone who is there for the long run. Someone you can grow with. Not the person who fulfills a quick need but that person who you know is truly committed to growing along side of you. Who pushes you to be the absolute best you can be. Friends reading this, find who you are outside of your sexuality & relationships. Don't let the world tell you who you are, you are so much more. Those are only small pieces to a very big puzzle. You have purpose, you have a destiny, you have a calling. Figure it out. Pray and ask God to show you, He will answer.
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