Lets talk about sex, baby!
Lets talk about you & me, lets talk about all the good things and the bad things that may be.... Thanks Salt N Pepa for the intro.
I was talking with my sister yesterday about my blog and all the things I want to open the discussion on. I want to be able to give insight on things that I've learned in my few years being a full time wife and mom!
One of the things that I think most people feel uncomfortable talking about is, you guessed it, S. E. X. If you're like me, you grew up with it being something extremely private and not to be talked about. I grew up in a christian family, I went to private school, these things were not just openly discussed. I feel as though that can put an unspoken shame on something that is so amazing. Yes, I said it. Sex is amazing. There is nothing shameful about it. It is natural, good, and beautiful within the confines of marriage.
Annnnd thats what I want to hit on today specifically. I truly believe, the best sex will come from being in a relationship that you KNOW is not going anywhere... no no, not that it isn't moving forward, but a relationship that is here to stay. You can only have that guarantee when you're in the confines of a marriage covenant. That is why I so firmly believe that when the Bible talks about abstaining from sex until marriage, it is not God saying "heres another rule, hope you can do it, if not you're going to hell." Its a loving God saying "Trust me, you will save yourself a WHOLE lot of heartbreak, tears, unplanned pregnancies, diseases etc.. if you wait until you're with someone who isn't leaving."
I know that I am barely scratching the surface on a massive topic & I hope to be able to dive into it more as I get the hang of this whole blogging thing. I just wanted to encourage you and motivate you to truly save yourself those heart breaks. Wait until you find someone who isn't going anywhere. Who you can be confident to share that intimacy with - most people you date don't deserve that aspect of you! Wait for the person who does deserve it, who commits to you, who proves that they were worth the wait. I can promise you, it will be a whole lot better. I waited until we were married to have sex, Sam on the other hand made a couple bad decisions growing up, lol no judgement- he was young and hormonal. But from our conversations, I regret nothing of my choice and he regrets a lot. He suffered a lot of unnecessary heartbreak, confusion, arguments and wishes that he didn't waste his time.
We are living in a society where having random sex is 'in.' Where no one needs to commit to one another because they think they are already getting everything they can get with the ability to still quit when things get difficult. They're being duped, its their untrustworthy hormones and emotions. I don't know about you, but that sounds awful! Everyone is terrified of committing, but whats more scary is not committing and never having the stability of one partner who is alongside you to grow. I knew Sam was the one because he always respected my decision, loved me regardless, and waited two long years to have me. Find you a Sam. Don't be ashamed to put your foot down and set the standard for yourself. You are worth the wait. This doesn't just apply to you ladies, guys - you can set the standard, too. Set yourself apart, do things differently, COMMIT. Its the best, I promise.
I was talking with my sister yesterday about my blog and all the things I want to open the discussion on. I want to be able to give insight on things that I've learned in my few years being a full time wife and mom!
One of the things that I think most people feel uncomfortable talking about is, you guessed it, S. E. X. If you're like me, you grew up with it being something extremely private and not to be talked about. I grew up in a christian family, I went to private school, these things were not just openly discussed. I feel as though that can put an unspoken shame on something that is so amazing. Yes, I said it. Sex is amazing. There is nothing shameful about it. It is natural, good, and beautiful within the confines of marriage.
Annnnd thats what I want to hit on today specifically. I truly believe, the best sex will come from being in a relationship that you KNOW is not going anywhere... no no, not that it isn't moving forward, but a relationship that is here to stay. You can only have that guarantee when you're in the confines of a marriage covenant. That is why I so firmly believe that when the Bible talks about abstaining from sex until marriage, it is not God saying "heres another rule, hope you can do it, if not you're going to hell." Its a loving God saying "Trust me, you will save yourself a WHOLE lot of heartbreak, tears, unplanned pregnancies, diseases etc.. if you wait until you're with someone who isn't leaving."
I know that I am barely scratching the surface on a massive topic & I hope to be able to dive into it more as I get the hang of this whole blogging thing. I just wanted to encourage you and motivate you to truly save yourself those heart breaks. Wait until you find someone who isn't going anywhere. Who you can be confident to share that intimacy with - most people you date don't deserve that aspect of you! Wait for the person who does deserve it, who commits to you, who proves that they were worth the wait. I can promise you, it will be a whole lot better. I waited until we were married to have sex, Sam on the other hand made a couple bad decisions growing up, lol no judgement- he was young and hormonal. But from our conversations, I regret nothing of my choice and he regrets a lot. He suffered a lot of unnecessary heartbreak, confusion, arguments and wishes that he didn't waste his time.
We are living in a society where having random sex is 'in.' Where no one needs to commit to one another because they think they are already getting everything they can get with the ability to still quit when things get difficult. They're being duped, its their untrustworthy hormones and emotions. I don't know about you, but that sounds awful! Everyone is terrified of committing, but whats more scary is not committing and never having the stability of one partner who is alongside you to grow. I knew Sam was the one because he always respected my decision, loved me regardless, and waited two long years to have me. Find you a Sam. Don't be ashamed to put your foot down and set the standard for yourself. You are worth the wait. This doesn't just apply to you ladies, guys - you can set the standard, too. Set yourself apart, do things differently, COMMIT. Its the best, I promise.
Dan is going through the book Every young mans battle with Cade and he said something that stood out for him in the book is that it reminded him that Satan will do anything to try and get men/women to have sex with their girlfriend/boyfriend before their married and anything to get you to stop having sex with your wife/husband after your married. God wants us to have healthy, happy sex and that is why He sets boundaries to protect our mind, hearts, and bodies. Good post Kendall!
ReplyDeleteThats so good Heather! I love that. Its so true, Satan wants to tempt before there is any commitment and once there is he wants to destroy the commitment in whatever way he can. The best sex comes from being fully confident in your spouse. Its just another form of communication that gets better as the experience grows together!
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